Erotic massage is one of the most luxurious forms of ‘foreplay there is. Getting ready to have sex – whatever “sex” to you means, whether that’s fingering, oral or penetration) doesn’t just have to involve making out like you’re 16 again. Erotic massage is the perfect way to connect physically and emotionally, as well as turn someone on.
Lovehoney sex expert Annabelle Knight explains how to give a super sexy erotic massage. Whatever you do afterward is totally up to you…
So while massage is obviously great because it loosens tension and relieves physical pain, it can also “help unblock their mind – as they focus less on the pain and the stress associated with it,” Annabelle adds.
Whether you decide to give their whole body some attention, or just their hands or back, here’s what you’ll need to prepare.
The right atmosphere
You don’t need a huge flat or spare bedroom to give an erotic massage in, as long as the space you do have is nice and relaxed (and comfy). Whether you’re planning to massage your partner in your bedroom or living room, as long as you get the atmosphere down, you’re good to go.
Temperature. “To help set the mood you might want to start by making the room warm,” Annabelle suggests. As your partner’s probably going to be naked (or at least semi-naked), you want to make sure the environment is as comfortable as possible.
Lighting. “You’ll also want to dim the lights or light some candles. Harsh lighting can be an uncomfortable distraction during a massage, so bring in a little bit of romance with some fairy lights or candles.”
Accessories you’ll need
“One of the most important parts of your massage is a slippery oil or lotion that will let your hands glide across their body, and leave their skin feeling smooth and nourished,” she says. You could use regular massage oil, but if you work on your partner with lickable massage oil, you’ll know it’s safe to come into contact with more… delicate areas of the body, too.
Feeling your way
Regardless of which body part you’re going to be massaging, there are techniques that can be used almost anywhere. “Be careful not to press too hard, or cause any pain when you’re giving the massage,” Annabelle advises. “Take time to check in with your partner to find out which parts they enjoy most.”
Initial touch. She says, “The first few touches you make should be long, lingering, and purposeful. Psychologically speaking, firm contact will reassure your partner and make them feel safe (think of how a strong handshake makes an impression on a business partner).
Apply the massage oil/lotion. This will get their skin warmed up. “Your hands should be flat but your fingers should be relaxed, allowing them to play, and follow the natural contours of your partner’s body.”
Fingertips. You might be tempted to start off massaging intensely and deeply, but the opposite can be more exciting and arousing. Annabelle recommends, “Using your fingertips, trace the contours of your partner’s body. Run your fingers through their hair, gently graze their neck with the pads of your fingers or follow the smooth curves of their lips with your thumbs. This soft touching will give great results and allow you to move your touch from one area of the body to another fluidly.”
Kneading thumbs. “Pressing, kneading, and rolling the thumbs against the body is a great way to work out tension in the muscles,” she adds. “Press your thumbs against any body part and smoothly move them away from you, using the full extension of your thumbs. Moving each thumb, one after the other creates a continuous rolling sensation that will really get rid of knots and tight spots. This works especially well on the back, shoulders, feet, and thighs.”
So, that should have got you firmly in the zone to take it from “massage” to “erotic massage”. What you do next is totally up to you, but if you want to draw the suspense and sexual tension out even longer, there are some amazing things you can do that don’t involve penetration.